After Happily Ever After

Although everyone has their own faith and religious beliefs one of the classic poems/sonnets/quotes about love comes from the Bible-

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

However, one thing that all married couples will tell you is that marriage is difficult. It takes work, understanding, compromise, tears, laughter and of course, love. So what do you do when you find yourself at an impasse, unable to talk to your spouse about whatever it is you are arguing about? Here is a sweet solution to that future time when you might find yourself questioning your vows or your love.

It is believed that this tradition was passed down when a father, preparing for his daughter’s wedding, made a beautiful box. Knowing that he had gone through plenty of hard times with his wife he knew that his daughter would have to face the same kinds of arguments, disagreements and hard times. The day of his daughter’s wedding he sat his daughter down and asked her to write a letter to her future husband, telling him all of the reasons that she loved him, why she wanted to marry him and her hopes and dreams for their future together. Her father then sat his future son-in-law down and asked him to do the same thing. At the wedding reception when it came time to make toasts to the bride and groom, her father pulled out the box. He told the wedding guests what he had done, asking the bride and groom to write each other a letter. He placed the letters into the box along with two beautiful wine glasses and a bottle of wine from the year they were married and he took a wax seal and sealed the box closed. The bride’s father turned to them and told them that in their future lives together they would face hardships, arguments, disagreements, love, happiness, joy and more than they would ever be able to picture as they sat there on their wedding day. But on that day when you feel like you can’t do it anymore, when you want to give up and you are questioning your love, take a deep breath agree not to speak for an hour or two, break the seal on the box, pour the wine and take the letters they had written to each other into different rooms and read them.

Wine Box  for Winter  Rustic Wedding with by willowroaddesigns

Years went by and the bride and groom had their own family now but her father had become ill. The bride went to visit her father and when she sat down to talk to him and they spoke of memories from their lives together. After talking for a few hours, laughing and crying over the memories they shared, her father took her hand and asked her if she had ever opened the box. The bride started crying then and her father put his hand on her head and let her cry until she was able to speak again. Tearfully she told her father that years ago, before their children had arrived, they had argued to a point where she didn’t think their marriage could take it. Her husband had been cleaning out the closet ready to leave so they could have a ‘break’ when he found the box in their closet, forgotten since the wedding. He had taken her into their living room without saying anything and he opened the box, poured the wine, handed her the letter he wrote her and went into their bedroom with her letter to him and his own glass of the wine. As she opened the letter and read all of the reasons that her husband had wanted to marry her she remembered all of the reasons they had fallen in love and all of the reasons why she wanted to save their marriage. After a few hours her husband came out of the bedroom, took her hands in his and told her that he loved her.

She looked at her father then and thanked him for his wisdom and for knowing that there would come a time when she would need the beautiful box. She told her father that they had gone out and bought another bottle of wine from the year they had been married, wrote new letters and added them to the letters from their wedding day and they had resealed the box. They hadn’t opened it again but she told her father that they will always have those reminders of their first love and their commitment to each other, even through the hardest of times.

The bride’s father pulled her to him and held her in his arms like he had when she was a little girl. He stroked her hair till her tears had stopped and she had fallen asleep. Her husband walked into the room and sat down by his father-in-laws bedside and thanked him for the beautiful woman he had blessed him with. Her father just smiled and looked down and his sleeping daughter in his arms and pointed to a beautifully carved box on the dresser and asked him to bring it over. The groom picked it up, noticing the marks of old sealing wax covering the front of the box. The bride’s father told the groom that the box he held was the one that his father-in-law had given to him the day he married the bride’s mother. They had opened that box at least a dozen times throughout their marriage and each time they had resealed it with new letters. He told the groom that no matter what happens in their lives, their box would be a reminder of the love that was worth fighting for.

Here are some places to find your own wax seals to make your own box:

Etsy- “Love” Wax Seal

Nostalgic Impressions -Customizable Initial Seals

Bonanza -Full Alphabet Wax Seals

Wild Orchid -Wine Box “Live, Laugh, Love”

By: Clare Rhine

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